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[hector_rashbaum]

So! Maybe I just have a little too much faith in people. But my default assumption is that people I consider my friends care about me, and thus care about my health and well-being. And! While, yeah, it's ideal when people take the time to actually say something when shit's going down, my default assumption when you don't is not "you don't give a shit", because I wouldn't consider you my friend if I couldn't believe you had your other reasons.

Especially if you told me what those other reasons were, or if you didn't tell me but I knew you had your own shit going on, or you hadn't been saying much of anything anywhere lately.

But, you know. Maybe it's a character flaw, or something.

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[pinksox007.livejournal.com]

hmm... I have hopes that this isnt about me because if it is, I am so out of the loop.

[madandy.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I would agree with you; I'm shite at commenting, but I do give a shit. Whatever's going on, I hope it passes soon - you've been through a hell of a lot this year, and deserve a little peace. :(

Hang in there.

[sidewinder.livejournal.com]

You know, if you want to defriend me right now, please feel free. It might be easier than either of us continuing with any passive aggressive commenting.

[hector-rashbaum.livejournal.com]

I don't want to defriend you. I wanted to give into a moment of passive-aggressive douchebaggery because that was easier than continuing to fume, and it didn't feel like you got it when I explained outright.

[sidewinder.livejournal.com]

And so it was better to continue this in full public view than to take it to private communication with me?

OK, then.

[hector-rashbaum.livejournal.com]

I admitted it was douchebaggy.

And the fact of the matter is I don't think private communication would make a difference, anyway. I mean, when it comes down to it, you just assumed the worst about me - that I was ignoring you - and I'm not entirely sure what you can say that's gonna make me feel better about the fact your default assumption about me is "doesn't give a shit".

So tonight I'm cranky because my computer is giving me shit and I gave in to the passive-aggressive urging when I shouldn't have.

[sidewinder.livejournal.com]

Well there's simply nothing more I'm going to say in a public, not even flocked lj entry to you. Certainly not regarding this.

[evaine.livejournal.com]

Hey guys? Don't. Please don't. You've both been through a most shiteous July and dealt with crap in just about every corner of your lives; I would hate to see you two fall out over this. Be pissed at each other if you need to - friends can do that - but please, try not to let hurt feelings and assumptions and all that crap ruin a good friendship. Life's too damned short.

[purplejamish.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[spirit-dog.livejournal.com]

./hugs

[zek-chan.livejournal.com]

I've been awful about commenting lately my dear, I'm sorry. Know though that I'm always rooting for you, even if the visual reminder isn't there. <3