Talking like reasonable adults works. Whodathunkit?

[hector_rashbaum]

I didn't go take a nap after my shower, Mom wanted to go to lunch so I went with her. had a omg delicious omelette and maple cream pie.

We talked about a lot. I told her about the anxiety problems and how I plan to go get help for it when I'm back at school, and she was very understanding. The anxiety comes from her side of the family, and she's well aware of how important it is to take care of it as early as possible, so there we go.

And then we talked about my sexuality. She said she had a hard time believing me, the girl who's been admiring men since I was could SEE, was suddenly gay, and I reminded her I'm not totally off men, I just prefer women at the moment. And she made a face and told me she thought it was "ooky". And then she told me she didn't like it, it didn't make her happy, but "it is what it is" and she'll accept it.

Not exactly the "I'm just glad you're happy" and "ooh, those are nice bracelets" and "what a cute cow! I'm happy for you" from Dad, but leaps and bounds ahead of calling me a queer. Baby steps, I guess.

She also asked if I thought the sexuality thing was either a product of or contributor to the anxiety, and I said if anything, the fact that I knew the parents didn't know and wondering how/when/what to tell them contributed.

So I feel much better now. It's time for a nap. Or The L Word. Or The L Word and then a nap. or vice versa. SO MANY OPTIONS.

Comments

[mayqueen517.livejournal.com]

I'm glad that she's at least willing to take baby steps toward it, even if she was really damned rude.

And I'm glad you're gonna get help for the anxiety problem, babe.

[aceofknaves88.livejournal.com]

I think the main problem is that people our parents age come from a time when gayness was not accepted. Granted, some people from that time are more understanding than others (I take it your dad grew up one of these people, which is cool), but it seems your mother isn't one. I know that NEITHER of my parents would be if I suddenly turned gay.
It just goes to show that things change in the world. Someday I imagine no parent will put up any kind of fuss when they find out their child is gay/bi. Until then, it's a world where people of that way of life have to struggle through the intollerance and the unacceptance of others. I think it's totally unfair of your mother to judge you based on the fact that right now you have a girlfriend (ESPECIALLY since she doesn't even know your girlfriend.) but I think she'll adjust to the idea slowly. However, one thing I HAVE learned about life is that what one struggles through in life will make them stronger if it doesn't break them. Don't break, Heidi, and I think you'll turn out one hell of a strong person in the end.

[kelpierocks.livejournal.com]

Grrr. I had a whole big comment written and LJ ate it. So I'll just say, glad things are better, and hugs.